New Years’ Resolutions are a hot topic every December and January – year in, year out. I don’t know about you, but my social media feed is full of ads and posts all to do with the “New Year! New You!” theory, including diets, exercise programs, and tummy tuck clothing to name a few.
A recent study of about 1000 people found that after 1 year, only 55% of people felt they had stuck to their New Year’s Resolution. And over the years various research has shown that longer term, only 20% of people will stick to their resolution.
Are you one of the 80% of people who makes a New Year’s Resolution and then breaks it? Or maybe you’re someone who makes a resolution and then the resolution breaks you?
In this article, we’ll unpack the real reason why so many resolutions fail and we’ll point you on a new course – one that will transform your belief system and set you up for success.
The pattern of resolution setting and breaking
As a former Personal Trainer for 8 years, I would see this repeatedly. Women signed up after the festive season because they wanted to lose weight, only to realise it wouldn’t happen overnight, or even in a few weeks like they hoped.
That’s why the community I built as a trainer was so popular. It helped my clients connect with their reason “why” and to motivate and inspire them to show up, way after their initial resolution and motivation faded.
So why is it that you can feel so motivated and determined one minute and then the next you find yourself –
- • switching off your alarm
- • skipping the exercise
- • reaching for that cigarette
- • pouring yourself a glass of wine or
- • jumping into bed with the person you know is bad news for you?
It’s a good question to ask and it’s even better to notice the patterns that appear in your life.
Pay attention to your patterns – they can be our teacher.
If you don’t pay attention to your patterns, they will continue ‘on repeat’ until you take action to change them. Why? Because the mind loves what’s familiar and it also loves to reinforce what it believes to be true.
- I’ve never been able to stick to a diet or healthy eating plan and I never will.
- I’ve always been fat and I always will be
- I’ve always hated exercise so what’s the point in even trying
- I’ve never had any willpower and I always fail in the end.
- I always choose the wrong men and the wrong men choose me
- I’ve never been able to give up smoking or drinking, so why try and quit now
And what about this one: I’ve got to die from something, so why not this?
I could go on, but these are some of the classic beliefs that people have running in the background (and maybe even in the foreground) of their conversations with themselves.
You may hear people make statements like these, and then look for your validation and agreement to further reinforce that what they believe is true. We are tribal beings after all and we just want to fit in.
Ignoring our patterns is settling into our comfort zone, unable to progress.
The root-cause beneath many failed resolutions is a fear of failure.
We fear failure, and the shame that we have attached to failing in some earlier experience, so much so that we literally set ourselves up to fail. Sometimes we do this by not even trying at all.
We tell ourselves these nonsense stories that ‘keep us safe’ and ‘protected’ from perceived inevitable failure and shame. We stay in our comfort zone, frustrated and not reaching our potential.
But what if we chose to believe something different?
Our beliefs can change – then we can change.
What if you were able to flip those old beliefs on their head and replace them with new truths?
What if you believed your success was inevitable?
Expecting change to be hard and for there to be some failures along the way is what creates your power to succeed. You can believe that showing up for the ‘hard stuff’ is what will lead to the ‘good stuff’ on the other side.
Forget resolutions – you need transformation.
This is exactly how I help my clients to shift out of old patterns of thinking to achieve a different and better result in their life.
It’s not about willpower or motivation. It’s about tapping into the phenomenal power of your subconscious mind that drives up to 95% of your thoughts, feelings and actions.
After all, thoughts, feelings and actions are what creates the results in your life.
So, if you want to be able to achieve your goals, change your habits, and get out of the looping thoughts and repeating patterns, the fastest way to do this is by rewiring the way you think, feel and act with Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT®).
Give yourself the gift of transformation now.
Right now, and until 31 January 2023 you can book a private RTT session with me for just $333, usually $549. [Amanda – update the offer dates? Otherwise remove to keep the post from dating]
Imagine giving yourself this gift.
Hear me when I say this: If you’ve already tried other things and it hasn’t worked, or if you’re on a waiting list a mile long for someone to help you, come and try RTT®. It will seriously change your life in the most phenomenal way.